Magbabago ka o Tatanggapin ka niya?

[pong]

uhm, iba yung sagot mo sa tanong ko.

maybe i generalized the answer in line with your question. pero ang main question was about the threshold for accepting and changing for a person you love. and it's the level of love, is that it? or are we talking about third persons here?

[darkstar13]

uhm, i don't know.

either you are an idealist in love and loving a person, or you haven't been so in love with a person who is almost the exact opposite of you.
the fact that we both struggle in trying to accept and change to satisfy each other's need is, for me, a manifestation of the level of love.
most people would just break up over those kinds of differences.

[pong]

so it isn't love. it's some sort of a sense of belonging.

[darkstar13]

how are you so sure that it isn't love and just a sense of belonging?

just because someone is struggling to accept something about someone they 'claim to love', you already concluded that the level of love is not enough, and now, it has gone all the way down to just a sense of belonging?

[pong]

mmm, i may not conclude love involves miscibility of two individual persons, but i think i did.

a lot of people claim it's love without being so sure of the feeling. yes, there is the physiological factors: increased heartbeat, decreased responsiveness to negative emotions among others, but that does not signify love in totality.

what's the sense of belonging? you're just being with someone because of some ulterior motive of whether the mind has outsmarted the heart. many couples are just being together for a lot of reasons... let me cite you examples:
1) for health reasons - i hate to elaborate further
2) for ostentation - just to present to everybody you're not pathetic as it may seem
3) for continuity of heritage
4) for conjugation of wealth
5) for self-actualization

getting too far, many people from the above relationships tend to accept their other half for the sake of fulfilling their ulterior motives, and that does not constitute love. maybe i'm really an idealist in love but i'm not defining love in its literal meaning. i've felt it as far as i can equate it but then that love was as selfish as i think it was, so i chose to let it subside.

to accept someone that is totally different from you is part of humanity and it constitutes love and compassion. being the change for love is not necessary, for it just complicates the true meaning of acceptance.

[caicomonster]

 
magbago para sa kanya at lalo na sa sarili mo 

[miggymontenegro]

50-50 ako.
kasi u can change a person and accept the leftover.

sabi nga nila if u already found a very special love, it will change your life and thats what it takes to be a man & a woman.

[Lanchie]

You have to be yourself in a relationship but you also have to know when to compromise.

If you compromise too much onset, you don't know kung ubra ba talaga kayo i nthe long run.

[niceguy1111]

50-50 ako.
kasi u can change a person and accept the leftover.

sabi nga nila if u already found a very special love, it will change your life and thats what it takes to be a man & a woman.

you got it right miggymontenegro! 

[miggymontenegro]

^ Like! 

[joshgroban]

hmmm depende sa babaguhin iba kasi pag masamang ugali ang babaguhin o personality mo talaga yun.... ako kasi makulit so siguro balance lang pero para totally baguhin yun mahirap naman yata.... kung mahal mo isang tao at may body odor sya syempre gusto mo magbago sya pero kung medyo mahiyain sya ...mahirap baguhin yun kasi sya yun...

[marvinofthefaintsmile]

hmmm depende sa babaguhin iba kasi pag masamang ugali ang babaguhin o personality mo talaga yun.... ako kasi makulit so siguro balance lang pero para totally baguhin yun mahirap naman yata.... kung mahal mo isang tao at may body odor sya syempre gusto mo magbago sya pero kung medyo mahiyain sya ...mahirap baguhin yun kasi sya yun...

parang di ko mai-magine na makulit pala si daddy monch.. nirereject ng imagination system ng isip ko.. "internal server error.."