May mga victim ba ng bullying dito kahit nung bata pa? Ako kasi ay oo.... Share share tayo! Whahaha.
Let me start....
May isang time na sinabunutan ako ng BABAE at kinaladkad across the classroom habang pinapanood ng mga classmates at no one dared to stop her. Other times ay hinuhubaran... binabantaan na bubugbugin kung di pakakalugin, mabuhusan ng tubig.... (Thankfully binti lang dahil nasa loob ako ng cubicle.) at marami pang iba.
man, sucks to be you. j/k
yeah, i was also bullied (well, who wasn't?). but i think bullies have more complex issues too. it is them who were more in need of attention i think, rather than the ones being bullied. as a victim of bullying, your only problem might be the emotional trauma you experienced, but it's exponentially more serious for the bully.
Ako naman, lagi akong center of attention back in high school - Laging kasali sa lahat ng klase ng jokes or maybe they really meant it. LOL. They keep on provoking me, calling me names, pero tiis nalang ako kasi wala akong choice, I don't stand a chance against everyone in the room. The reason why? Because iba lahi ko, hahaha!
Pero nung College, no one ever, dared to say anything stupid to me. Probably kasi I belong to a somewhat big group. And siguru kasi mas matatalino at nakakaintindi ng respeto ang mga naging classmates ko.
If you wonder if may naging dulot ang pagiging victim ko back in high school, well, I think naging matigas/manhid lang ako pag dating sa emotional aspect. haha
It does sucks to be me.... But from what I have learned from the Oprah, "What stressed and pushed you the most, helped you the most." Which is why, human needs to get out of their comfort zone to train themselves. BTW, Pagiging manhid is a long term effect of bullying that usually shows up when the victim gets mature. They have larger tendency to be a loner and dozens of long term effects.
I think that bullying comes from self insecurities. Bullies bully people so that they can feel secure about themselves not knowing that they'd affect these people and make them less secure of themselves.
Lahat naman ata tayo were bullied at some point. My bullies used to call me "lonely-boy-faggot" "Mr-Know-it-all" when I was in grade school. Then nung nag highschool ako I, myself became a bully... yung tipong I will never speak to someone from a public school (nag-aral kasi ako sa scienceHS). Kung ano anong katarantaduhan ginagawa ko nun, I even threw someone's bag sa tiolet. Pero lahat yun nag bago, I started to join clubs and school orgs... dun ko na realize that public schoolers are not that bad, sila pa nga yung masaya kasama eh. I said sorry to everyone that I bullied, they accepted my apology and we became friends.
That is where it all gets complicated.... A person can be a bully because he or she is bullied as well.... I too became a bully but only verbally....
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Me too. I have also bullied someone at some point because I think he wants it badly. I actually become an anti-bully - bully the bullies.
QuoteBTW, Pagiging manhid is a long term effect of bullying that usually shows up when the victim gets mature. They have larger tendency to be a loner and dozens of long term effects.
Its probably the reason why naging lonely ako for years... Pero na oovercome ko na ngaun un, because I try to be friendly around people. Usually ako pa ung nagiging conversation starter even though I am naturally shy daw, haha.
Years? That's a little dangerous.... It could be depression... I actually feel it right now... However... the symptoms can sometimes overlap each other creating mistaken diagnosis... I myself have suicidal thoughts right now and trying my best to not let it affect my grades by relying on my natural talents.... I do not want it to spread like fire.... I just want it to suffocate it until the fire kills itself for lack of oxygen.
^ay nako. dati may namnbully sa akin, ginulpi ko. bwahahahahaha!!! nung teenager pa ako kase ay mainitin ang ulo ko at masyadong serious sa mga bagay-bagay..
Quote from: SuperBazor on January 23, 2013, 08:31:19 PM
Years? That's a little dangerous.... It could be depression... I actually feel it right now... However... the symptoms can sometimes overlap each other creating mistaken diagnosis... I myself have suicidal thoughts right now and trying my best to not let it affect my grades by relying on my natural talents.... I do not want it to spread like fire.... I just want it to suffocate it until the fire kills itself for lack of oxygen.
at yang suicidal thoughts ay nadaanan ko na din yan. 2x pa nga ako nag-attempt eh... kaso somewhere out there beneath the pale moonlight eh narealize ko na not worth it. I just set my spirit free and everything went well.
^the moon told you not to take your own life? wow jack frost
I never tried to take my own life.... Because... My love for God and the fear of going to hell stops me from it... Besides... I know there are other people relying on me... Last thing ay... May nabasa kasi ako kagabi....
"Wag mong sayangin ang sakripisyo ng iba para lamang makapagpatuloy ka sa iyong buhay lalong lalo na kung ang sinakripisyo nila ay ang sarili nilang buhay para lamang makapagpatuloy ka. Marami rin tao ang nangangailangan sa iyo at umaasa."
Quote from: sayonara on January 24, 2013, 03:59:51 PM
^the moon told you not to take your own life? wow jack frost
hmm.. didja watch that movie?
^like, 5 times already. once on IMAX NE, then twice 3D's at Megamall, once again at WalterMart Plaridel, then lately via torrent.
lol jack frost is my man crush (that hair! i need to sport that hair!), well, animated category. real life it's johnny depp.
Quote from: SuperBazor on January 24, 2013, 06:50:13 PM
I never tried to take my own life.... Because... My love for God and the fear of going to hell stops me from it... Besides... I know there are other people relying on me... Last thing ay... May nabasa kasi ako kagabi....
"Wag mong sayangin ang sakripisyo ng iba para lamang makapagpatuloy ka sa iyong buhay lalong lalo na kung ang sinakripisyo nila ay ang sarili nilang buhay para lamang makapagpatuloy ka. Marami rin tao ang nangangailangan sa iyo at umaasa."
Hindi ko man naisip mag suicide. LOL
I just want change. Baguhin lifestyle ko. Make new friends. find something new to do.
Medyo depressed nga ako these past few weeks. The only few friends I had, eh nag puro nag ipag abroad na. Kaya puro trabaho, bahay, gym lang ako. Boring na buhay yan...
Quote from: sayonara on January 24, 2013, 07:46:50 PM
^like, 5 times already. once on IMAX NE, then twice 3D's at Megamall, once again at WalterMart Plaridel, then lately via torrent.
lol jack frost is my man crush (that hair! i need to sport that hair!), well, animated category. real life it's johnny depp.
hmm.. hindi q naramdaman yang pagkabighani ke jack nung pinanood q sya.. pag naalala q xa, isa lang pumapasok sa isip ko.. donut..
^actually, Jack was sort of bullied to by his past. I'm not attracted to Jack (i ain't gay bro), he's just the person I wish I was. you know? cool and free.
but he is sad because no one believes in him.. do u want to be like that?
lol my life itself is the epitome of sadness. at least jack has freedom.
Honestly.... Do you still feel sad when you are in PGG?
(http://25.media.tumblr.com/6fb4a0673b380887a56d0f47ffc06f91/tumblr_mfbqn3RVcg1s12ea6o1_500.jpg)
I just got punched in the stomach for accidentally bumping one of my male classmate and he accidentally drop his candy or something.... Whahahaha. Nagkasagutan pero... I gave consideration considering I am older at may FAMILY PROBLEM SIYA.... Pretty neat....
Mukang madaming malungkot dito or ako lang. Hehehe. Sino mga taga pampanga dito?
If there is something I noticed.... A lot of people here are successful but are nearly devoured by their own sadness.... "Money won't guarantee happiness.... But it will surely make life easier." THINK POSITIVE PEOPLE..... Laban kung laban... The world is survival of the fittest.... sabi nga ni Kuya JG... You have the mind to think and the eyes to see... Be happy about because others doesn't have it...
Quote from: sayonara on January 25, 2013, 05:07:14 PM
lol SuperBazor's life itself is the epitome of sadness. at least jack has freedom.
i agree
Quote from: marvinofthefaintsmile on January 28, 2013, 10:16:51 AM
Quote from: sayonara on January 25, 2013, 05:07:14 PM
lol SuperBazor's life itself is the epitome of sadness. at least jack has freedom.
i agree
is that typo or intentional? lol XD
I find it funny because it's true pero trying hard not to think about it... Once na pasado ako sa entrance exam ko sa PATTS.... There will be a big smile on my face dahil one step closer to my dream iyon... MEdyo mahirap nga lang mag excel dahil ang laki ng long term damages sa psychology ko.... pero it's still fine except the super daldal. Whahaha.
^You know, bro, it will be definitely traumatic for you, should you not change the course of things. But it's nice to know you're moving on. Yeah, the damage is there, but you can only heal it.
I vowed to myself na hinding hindi ako gagamit ng revenge or other negative emotions ara lang mastimulate ako toward success.... Kaya nahihirapan akong mag exert ng effort at ang dali kong tamarin.... Minsan kasi naiispi ko... "Para saan pa? wala ka namng pag-bibigyan kung maging succesful ka eh."
^that last part is very demotivating. i can't fathom the depth of your sadness :-\
Emotions are unfathomable... Pero... FIGHT FIGHT parin! Kasi I know that may mga taong mas naghihirap diyan pero di sila nagrereklamo at patuloy na lumalaban... So bakit di ko gawin yun? Total, magkakaiba man skills natin ay parepareho lang tayo na may emotion.
Let's change topic nga pero about bullying parin ito... Are you familiar about Work-place bullying?
Quote from: sayonara on January 28, 2013, 05:10:19 PM
Quote from: marvinofthefaintsmile on January 28, 2013, 10:16:51 AM
Quote from: sayonara on January 25, 2013, 05:07:14 PM
lol SuperBazor's life itself is the epitome of sadness. at least jack has freedom.
i agree
is that typo or intentional? lol XD
hahahaha!!
Quote from: sayonara on January 28, 2013, 05:38:37 PM
^You know, bro, it will be definitely traumatic for you, should you not change the course of things. But it's nice to know you're moving on. Yeah, the damage is there, but you can only heal it.
just remember that even if the wound disappears, the scar still remains.
Quote from: SuperBazor on January 28, 2013, 05:48:48 PM
I vowed to myself na hinding hindi ako gagamit ng revenge or other negative emotions ara lang masturbate ako toward success.... Kaya nahihirapan akong mag exert ng effort at ang dali kong tamarin.... Minsan kasi naiispi ko... "Para saan pa? wala ka namng pag-bibigyan kung maging succesful ka eh."
@Supahbazor: U need to adapt to the situation and find happiness in the middle of darkness. Luk @ me, I find happiness in the dark.
Masturbate? I checked it and it says... "mastimulate." Whahahaha. Typo or intentional? BTW.... IDK where to find happiness.... It's not dark but foggy actually.... I am trying my best in finding happiness and I found it HERE. Because, I know that I can learn a lot from all of you especially because you are elders and more experienced and more mature.
c daddy monch lang ang pgg elder. <--me makapal na balbas pa to to match this title.
foggy? silent hill ba ang peg nito? hahaha!
anyway, dont be too serious in life and don't follow all the rules in life because you might miss the FUN.
I tried.... whahahaha. Siguro pressured din akong maging serious.... Pero anyway.... Foggy is dahil, Ang daming hindi mo makikita at magugulat ka na lang tapos ang fog ay nakikipaglaro sa iyong isipan... Whahaha.
Never liked Silent hill because I find very stressful dahil stressful na nga buhay ko.... Poseidon adventures pa nga lang ayoko na eh...
Si daddy monch nga.... (BTW, pwede ko ba siyang tawaging daddy? Whahaha.) KAsi I checked a photo of one EB na kahit nakatakip ang inyong mga mukha ay halatang young adult pa lang....
Talk about bullying.... Kahit Grade 7.... pinagtatawanan ako kahit wala akong ginagawa dahil ako pa naisipang pag-usapan ha....
A bit of advice from a once-bullied person... Feel good about yourself, be confident even if mahirap (trust me, I know...). Try having a good posture, chest out, stomach in, chin up... Have that Oh-Heck-Yeah-I-Know-I-am-Handsome smirk... Be presentable... And let the awkwardness be invisible... Above all, DO NOT CARE! Everything they say are just blahs showing the insecurities inside them. I'm pretty sure you'll get the respect you deserve.
I don't think that will work.... :(... Kasi sa sobrang straight ko maglakad at chest out, napagkamalan akong babae once..... Tsaka kahit anung gawin ko... dadaragin at dadaragin nila ako... hahanap at hahanap sila ng mali sa akin.... Salamat nga at dala ko ang shades ko para matago ko ang maluha luha kong mata.... Tapos nagbabasa ako ng isang article na connected sa thesis namin dahil bullying ang topic.... Pero sabi niya kaartehan daw yun....
Pero may natutunan ako sa binabasa ko.... Bullying and stressful and anything stressful cause the hormone receptors in the brain become more active to the extent that they multiply just to cope with stress. Once a person have more hormonal receptors, they become more sensitive to stress such as a person will feel that they are in danger even if he or she is safe. Drug injection can cure it or supportive social circle.... BTW.... Supportive? Busy lahat sa relationships nila at once na lumapit ka, Pagkakamalan ka na inggit. Pero as much as possible.... Di ako nakikipag interact.
Bullying has evolve faster than we can compensate. My decision right now is, I will not talk to my classmate not unless the purpose is business or private matters. Pero di muna ako makikipag biruan sa kanila....
Kaya pala mahirap kasi BUONG HS department na ang problema ko.... Hirap maging school celebrity KUNO? Whahahhaa
^I suggest u meet Daddy monch.
Currently waiting for his reply sa PM.... whahaha. Pero btw... I can manage somehow.... Sinasabi ko na lang na... "Konting tiis na lang.... Graduating ka na... Tandaan mo.... Naghahari man sila sa eskwelahan pero ibang iba ang mundo sa labas.... At sigurado akong mas mataas ang survival rate mo kahit pa sabihin mong may lahi silang politika... Whahaha."
Hindi ba ang bullying eh something that encourages you? Parang something that pushes you to pursue your dreams higher? XD
I had these things and i forget them, hindi ako naniniwala sa hedgehog's dilemma.
^the closer u become with someone, the more painful it gets.. luv it!
yep,nung bata ako mostly sa classmates ko
Commonly naman to' sa mga school
Grabe yung balita sa Yahoo..... Isang batang binubugbog sa school, napatay yung taong nambubugbog sa kanya. Isang araw, pauwi si victim ay sinundan siya ni bully. medyo napuno na si victim kaya sinuntok niya ni bully sa likod. Later that day ay nagsusuka ng nagsusuka si bully at dinala sa ospital. then the bully died and the victim was handed over to the DSWD.
Bullying in our country is starting to evolve and becoming more noticeable.
i luv bully burger!
In my opinion, hindi nawawala ang mga bully dahil maraming insecure na tao na tinatago ang insecurities sa pambubully sa iba. Yung iba naman on the other hand ay nambubully dahil nabully din sila dati which creates a domino effect.
When I was in highschool, a classmate of mine always has something to say about me. Like, "tumayo ka nga ng maayos, pangit mo tingnan"; "ayusi mo yang damit mo, mukha kang pulubi"; "kumain ka nga madami, para kang bangkay"; etc... I get it from him almost everyday. I just ignore him.
Nagkataon na iisa ang gusto naming babae; siya, lagi niya tinatawagan sa bahay nila(landline, di pa uso cellphone nun). ako, naman wala ginagawa kasi torpedo ako. Nung college, dun ako nagkalakas ng loob manligaw; naging ok kami ng babae and dun ko nalaman na binasted pala siya ng babae. Eh same college lang kami ng guy na yun, tuloy yuko na lang siya 'pag nagkakasalubong kami. But i never meant to make him feel bad, it just happened.
And yes, bullying also happen in the workplace. You just have to be mature enough when to and not to react. Also, know when to raise a flag.
Lastly, just a piece of advice; though it is nice to release your stress and problems with your online buddies, it is much healthier if you could have someone to talk it with in the real world, like a close friend, your siblings or your parents.
You can be anyone online; kaso 'pag na attach ka sa virtual world, you might live in a lie, lying to yourself, lying to others. Katulad sa isa kong kakilala, akala niya he's the best in everything kasi that's what he is in his virtual world, "ako, kaya ko to..."; "ako nga..."; "ako, parating..."; and he doesn't realize that he's making other people hate him.
opinion ko lang...
Thank you po sa advice.... Sa ngayon ay okay na ako.... Wala na yung pasa malapit sa nipple ko dahil natwist intentionally yung balat. Nag iinvest na rin ako ng time kasi instead na iimprove ang quantity ng friends, quality na lang at iyon ay real world. Nahanap ko na rin ang problem ko kung bakit may vicious cycle ako ng depression. Iyon ay aking mga SOCIALLY CONDITIONED GOALS AT EGO DRIVEN GOALS. (Guilty..... whahahaha)
^ta-ma, the first step to solving ur problem is to acknowledge your problem first.
Hi kuya Marvs. nakaktuwa yung blog mo na hunk rider. hahahaha.
BTW... Honestly, I find this forum to be more comfortable than the real world because everyone here is mature enough to ask an advice rather than from my immature classmates who are very bad infleunce, Not to generalize pero true. Sa kanila nga ako natuto mag mura pero controlled naman.... What I cannot accept is their habits. A lot of them smoke, drink and go home late at night. I am just not one of them. Everyone is just too arrogant. But the good thing is, my teachers always gave me moral support. Hehehe. Not to shabby I think pero I am trying my best to be friend them. Kaso, a lot of times ako pinagtritripan.
Telling my parents about my bullying problem? Wag na... Graduating ako at di ko hahayaang makompromiso iyon... Friends? Not so much kasi busy sa love life.... ewan ko ba pero halatang di marunong magbalanse... pero I am not bitter, hahaha. Valentines man wala akong pakialam dahil I have goals.... (Pero kailangan ng alteration kasi demotivating yung purpose dahil nagpromise ako sa sarili ko na no hard feelings for goals. Kaso OUTDATED yung goals... I made it while I was in distress.)
^thanks! like na like talaga ang blog ko. NI-like pa to mismo ni Jay Taruc ng GMA 7.
Well, ganun tlga pag teenagers.. feeling nila korean mga mature na sila kapag nakahithit ng sigarilyo, o inom ng alcoholic. hindi ako dumaan sa gnun pero sa ibang bgay ako napadpad. well, patapos nmn dn ang pagaaral mo, so much better na just keep it to yourself n lng. isipin mo na bagong mundo ang papasukan mo after mong gumaradweyt. kanta k ng "A whole new world!"
Thanks. Actually I am proud of myself kasi ang smooth sailing ng pagtatapos ng school year...... hehehehe... And..
Wow... Jay Taruc? Whahaha. congratulations... hehehe
Eeek. I just had this conversation with my sister and we were trying to recall when we were bullied in school. nothing came to mind but found out something odd.
Anu yung odd kuya?
i am a victim...and i still bear the wounds of abuse
Quote from: SuperBazor on February 22, 2013, 06:00:58 AM
Anu yung odd kuya?
We concluded that we were sort of the bullies in school. :-)
sobra sakit nito
Not intentionally, anyway. I think we just had bigger personalities.
I was bullied too during grade 1, by a bunch of girls. One time sinabunutan ako. Then another time they took my bag inside the girl's restroom.
Quote from: mightee on March 14, 2014, 10:07:33 PM
I was bullied too during grade 1, by a bunch of girls. One time sinabunutan ako. Then another time they took my bag inside the girl's restroom.
tsk bad girls!
i was also a victim of bullying when i was grade school,pero ngayon college na ako,everytime na makakasalubong ko yung mga nangbully sakin,they're just smiling at me na parang pare-pare lang(Pano mas matangkad ako sa kanila (joke) haha)
well, time changes and its memories as well.
ive been bullied elementary until high school. college came and everything changes.
basta, make a resolution to heal all the hurts, forgive your tormentors. its hard... but its the only way to move on from being the "victim". Make a resolution that you are not who you used to be.