Things You Learned About When You Became A Dad

[den0saur]

Hmm gusto ko din malaman ito

Mas mahal ba talaga ng mga tatay anak nila kesa sa asawa nila? Dami din kasi akong kilalang ganito


*yoko ng safe answer na pareho lang* lol

ISANG MALAKING OO!

Pero alam ko naman na hindi dapat pero kasi inlab na inlab ako sa anak ko.


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[den0saur]

nangilid nang slight yung luha ko reading this. me and my wife are very excited to have our first baby kaso di pa kami pinagpapala ni Lord. siguro pineprepare pa kami. i must admit reading this i realize malaking adjustment ang pagiging daddy. baka sabi ni Lord, di pa ako mature enough para maging ama, haha. anyway, sana, soon, makapagshare na rin ako ng mga natutunan ko from my personal experience.

Nobody is ever prepared, I'm telling you. Pag naandyan na, tsaka ka biglang magiging "tatay" in every sense of it.
Siguro nga hindi pa lang talaga panahon. Your time will come, brother. Darating din yan. Good luck!


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[Peps]

Hmm gusto ko din malaman ito

Mas mahal ba talaga ng mga tatay anak nila kesa sa asawa nila? Dami din kasi akong kilalang ganito


*yoko ng safe answer na pareho lang* lol

ISANG MALAKING OO!

Pero alam ko naman na hindi dapat pero kasi inlab na inlab ako sa anak ko.


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Sabagay nung namatay pamangkin ko mas maiyak talaga yung kuya ko that time, ni hindi nga nya matignan pamangkin ko, humahagulgol lang siya sa sulok ng hospital.

Saka nabasa ko based sa US studies sa mga mag bf/gf na nagpapa abort, mas natotrauma daw ang mga lalaki

[Matthew09]

Hello!

Post niyo dito yung mga bagong natutunan o nalaman niyo mula ng naging tatay kayo - things you did not know were needed to do or even existed.

Eto sa akin:

1. Mabilis magpump ang heart ng baby.
2. Nakakapamulubi ang infant formula milk.
3. Mamumulubi ka rin sa diapers pala.
4. May pamahiin pala na after 1 year pa pwedeng pagupitan ng buhok ang bata.
5. Nakakaiyak pala pag first time mo syang makita na kinukuhanan ng blood sample for newborn screening tsaka pag kelangan ng meds na iiinject.
6. May instances na mukhang banlag o duling ang bata pero normal lang pala yun kasi hindi pa fully developed ang facial features nya. Ero it's vetter to consult a pedia-optha.
7. Kawawang kawawa ang bata when they start teething.
8. For newborns, wag daw iki-kiss ang bata lalo sa mouth at hands kasi baka mahawa sya ng kung anong sakit na meron yung adult, hindi pa ganun kalakas immune system nya kaya delikado.
9. Pinakahirap ako pag may ubo at sipon ang bata. Halos di kami makatulog sa pagbabantay lalo kung may clogged nose.
10. Totoo yung sinasabi palagi ng nga matatanda na nakakatanggal ng pagod yung anak mo na ngingitian ka pagdating mo sa bahay after a long day's work.

Thanks for sharing bro.. not yet a father but this will help us na soon to be a daddy. Nakaka excite at every time na makakakita ako sa mga may baby naiinggit ako, hehe sabi ko kay misis balang araw magkakaron din tayo nyan...dahil dito sa post lalo tuloy ako na excite. [emoji4]

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[den0saur]

Chris,

Share. Gusto ko marinig from you. Haha


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[outcastblueboy]

Share lang mga daddy bros! Maganda kasi from your firsthand exp

[Chris]

Chris,

Share. Gusto ko marinig from you. Haha


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Den - so far, the hardest part ng married life ko ay raising a kid. Expectation ko is around 9/10 ang difficulty, in reality parang nasa mga 20 ang difficulty level hahaha.

Things I learned:

- Being selfless. Before it used to be me me me. Ngayon, I sometimes forget myself because it's all about the baby. It's so hard that I even feel depressed sometimes, I gained a lot of weight, ate a lot, lost time to exercise and all those me times were gone. I hope to bring my me time back (hopefully this 2019) kaso maliit pa si baby. We'll see.

- Baby wants mom for sleep time and cuddling, but he wants DAD for playing, adventure and thrill. Sometimes nagtatampo ako pag mas preferred nya mom for sleeping, pero that's the reality of life. Kids prefer their mom to soothe them but they prefer their dads for FUN. Not a bad thing if you think about it.

- Pee and poop are everywhere. You have to clean it. Medyo hands-on parent kasi talaga ako so hawak kung hawak sa dumi! LOL. (I know right? Where was the cool Chris before?) But then again, that's part of growing up and being more matured.

- Bukod sa paglinis ng poop, pinakamahirap magpaligo. Kasi madulas so dapat ingat ingat lagi.

- Kids need to bond with their parents. You need to set time to play with them. Wag text ng text FB ng FB. They want to play WITH YOU not with their inanimate TOYS.

- You should teach them to socialize with other kids.

- Even as a baby, I bring him to Church and teach him to pray. Kahit di pa nya naiintindihan, he needs to slowly get the habit of listening (and talking) to God.

- Bawasan ang too much gadget, screen or TV time. Let them play with non-tech toys, games and activities. They need it for their motor skills.

- Wag masyado maselan sa food. During my first few months as a dad, my wife and I OBEYED everything that the PEDIA said. Hands down lahat ng sinabi nya. However my baby lost weight kasi masyado maselan sa food. So dapat pala, pakainin ng pakainin kasi growing kid nga! Experience is the best teacher so listen to tips coming from lolo / lola (that is your parents) because they know how to raise a kid. Napalaki nga kayo, so malamang maayos naman ang tips nila sa pagpapalaki.

- Once magka-baby, bawas na ang travel. Kasi una, super inconvenient. Sisimba lang kami 2 bag dala namin plus stroller. How much more kung out-of-town or out-of-the-country travel? I went to FIFA World Cup Russia 2018 last year (with the whole family) and guess what, isang buong LARGE luggage ang laman lang gamit ni baby. May stroller pa. And syempre may sariling luggage pa kaming mag-asawa.

- Gastos! It's so hard to budget, because daming gastos.

*With all the difficulties I mentioned above, I really wonder how young/teenage parents do it and I'm impressed by their ability to raise a kid at such a young age. Ako kasi if I were in my teens or early 20s, I wouldn't think I'd be suitable enough to be a parent. I'm not prepared physically, mentally and emotionally. Di ko kakayanin sa totoo lang. But now, that I'm more matured and grown-up, mas kaya ko na ihandle siguro (kahit hirap pa rin).

So yes, pinag-iisipan talaga ang pagkakaroon ng baby.

But on the bright side:

- Seeing your baby smile at you is the best thing in the world. Kahit sobrang pagod ka na sa kanya, pero pag nginitian ka na or tumawa, SOLVE na lahat.

- When your baby cries pag papasok ka na sa office, you are torn between going to work and staying at home. You realize that this tiny little human NEEDS you because you ARE EVERYTHING to him.

-When you come home, bubuksan ko pa lang pinto, naririnig ko na na sumisigaw na si baby ng DADA. (he's still trying to say Daddy) and then pagbukas ng pinto tatakbo sayo at aakap sayo - and YES guys, that is one of the best FEELINGS in the world.


So far ito. MARAMI pang iba. hehehe.

[outcastblueboy]

Chris,

Share. Gusto ko marinig from you. Haha


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Den - so far, the hardest part ng married life ko ay raising a kid. Expectation ko is around 9/10 ang difficulty, in reality parang nasa mga 20 ang difficulty level hahaha.

Things I learned:

- Being selfless. Before it used to be me me me. Ngayon, I sometimes forget myself because it's all about the baby. It's so hard that I even feel depressed sometimes, I gained a lot of weight, ate a lot, lost time to exercise and all those me times were gone. I hope to bring my me time back (hopefully this 2019) kaso maliit pa si baby. We'll see.

- Baby wants mom for sleep time and cuddling, but he wants DAD for playing, adventure and thrill. Sometimes nagtatampo ako pag mas preferred nya mom for sleeping, pero that's the reality of life. Kids prefer their mom to soothe them but they prefer their dads for FUN. Not a bad thing if you think about it.

- Pee and poop are everywhere. You have to clean it. Medyo hands-on parent kasi talaga ako so hawak kung hawak sa dumi! LOL. (I know right? Where was the cool Chris before?) But then again, that's part of growing up and being more matured.

- Bukod sa paglinis ng poop, pinakamahirap magpaligo. Kasi madulas so dapat ingat ingat lagi.

- Kids need to bond with their parents. You need to set time to play with them. Wag text ng text FB ng FB. They want to play WITH YOU not with their inanimate TOYS.

- You should teach them to socialize with other kids.

- Even as a baby, I bring him to Church and teach him to pray. Kahit di pa nya naiintindihan, he needs to slowly get the habit of listening (and talking) to God.

- Bawasan ang too much gadget, screen or TV time. Let them play with non-tech toys, games and activities. They need it for their motor skills.

- Wag masyado maselan sa food. During my first few months as a dad, my wife and I OBEYED everything that the PEDIA said. Hands down lahat ng sinabi nya. However my baby lost weight kasi masyado maselan sa food. So dapat pala, pakainin ng pakainin kasi growing kid nga! Experience is the best teacher so listen to tips coming from lolo / lola (that is your parents) because they know how to raise a kid. Napalaki nga kayo, so malamang maayos naman ang tips nila sa pagpapalaki.

- Once magka-baby, bawas na ang travel. Kasi una, super inconvenient. Sisimba lang kami 2 bag dala namin plus stroller. How much more kung out-of-town or out-of-the-country travel? I went to FIFA World Cup Russia 2018 last year (with the whole family) and guess what, isang buong LARGE luggage ang laman lang gamit ni baby. May stroller pa. And syempre may sariling luggage pa kaming mag-asawa.

- Gastos! It's so hard to budget, because daming gastos.

*With all the difficulties I mentioned above, I really wonder how young/teenage parents do it and I'm impressed by their ability to raise a kid at such a young age. Ako kasi if I were in my teens or early 20s, I wouldn't think I'd be suitable enough to be a parent. I'm not prepared physically, mentally and emotionally. Di ko kakayanin sa totoo lang. But now, that I'm more matured and grown-up, mas kaya ko na ihandle siguro (kahit hirap pa rin).

So yes, pinag-iisipan talaga ang pagkakaroon ng baby.

But on the bright side:

- Seeing your baby smile at you is the best thing in the world. Kahit sobrang pagod ka na sa kanya, pero pag nginitian ka na or tumawa, SOLVE na lahat.

- When your baby cries pag papasok ka na sa office, you are torn between going to work and staying at home. You realize that this tiny little human NEEDS you because you ARE EVERYTHING to him.

-When you come home, bubuksan ko pa lang pinto, naririnig ko na na sumisigaw na si baby ng DADA. (he's still trying to say Daddy) and then pagbukas ng pinto tatakbo sayo at aakap sayo - and YES guys, that is one of the best FEELINGS in the world.


So far ito. MARAMI pang iba. hehehe.

Napakagandang pagbabahagi!

[Chris]

Thank you!

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[den0saur]

Agree on everything you shared. Kami, Overnight in Tagaytay lang, puno ang SUV ng gamit ng baby samantalang isang medium-sized maleta lang ang gamit namin mag-asawa.
But it gets better. Ngayon, nakakagala na kami sa mall even without the stroller. Isang backpack na lang.
minsan lang, nakakamiss yung may karga ka na baby. Hehehe


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[buknoy]

Kinabahan ako reading these. My panganay is 9 year old boy. Buntis si Misisn ngayon and feeling ko nakalimutan ko na lahat. Natatakot na ako mag karga ng new born, naiisip ko kung paano ko nga ba sya pinaliguan dati?? Haha. Parang first time ko ulit.

Yung panganaynamin we started calling him kuya and feel na feel nya. Sabi nya tutulong daw sya sapag aalaga and bubugbugin nya daw mangbu-bully sa kapatid nya.

Di ko alam. Excited ako na sobrang kabado. Sabi naman ng mga friends ko kusang babalik yung parent skills kapag nandyan na.


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[outcastblueboy]

Kinabahan ako reading these. My panganay is 9 year old boy. Buntis si Misisn ngayon and feeling ko nakalimutan ko na lahat. Natatakot na ako mag karga ng new born, naiisip ko kung paano ko nga ba sya pinaliguan dati?? Haha. Parang first time ko ulit.

Yung panganaynamin we started calling him kuya and feel na feel nya. Sabi nya tutulong daw sya sapag aalaga and bubugbugin nya daw mangbu-bully sa kapatid nya.

Di ko alam. Excited ako na sobrang kabado. Sabi naman ng mga friends ko kusang babalik yung parent skills kapag nandyan na.


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Congrats sa pagiging daddy ulit!

[Chris]

Kinabahan ako reading these. My panganay is 9 year old boy. Buntis si Misisn ngayon and feeling ko nakalimutan ko na lahat. Natatakot na ako mag karga ng new born, naiisip ko kung paano ko nga ba sya pinaliguan dati?? Haha. Parang first time ko ulit.

Yung panganaynamin we started calling him kuya and feel na feel nya. Sabi nya tutulong daw sya sapag aalaga and bubugbugin nya daw mangbu-bully sa kapatid nya.

Di ko alam. Excited ako na sobrang kabado. Sabi naman ng mga friends ko kusang babalik yung parent skills kapag nandyan na.


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Congrats! 2nd baby? Layo rin ng gap if ever. hehehehe.

Pero oo nga, ako 1 year and 3 months pa lang baby ko, pero di na yata ako marunong maghawak ng new born. I know that feeling. Parang sobrang sensitive and vulnerable kasi pag new born talaga.

Anyway, congrats again!

[buknoy]

Kinabahan ako reading these. My panganay is 9 year old boy. Buntis si Misisn ngayon and feeling ko nakalimutan ko na lahat. Natatakot na ako mag karga ng new born, naiisip ko kung paano ko nga ba sya pinaliguan dati?? Haha. Parang first time ko ulit.

Yung panganaynamin we started calling him kuya and feel na feel nya. Sabi nya tutulong daw sya sapag aalaga and bubugbugin nya daw mangbu-bully sa kapatid nya.

Di ko alam. Excited ako na sobrang kabado. Sabi naman ng mga friends ko kusang babalik yung parent skills kapag nandyan na.


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Congrats! 2nd baby? Layo rin ng gap if ever. hehehehe.

Pero oo nga, ako 1 year and 3 months pa lang baby ko, pero di na yata ako marunong maghawak ng new born. I know that feeling. Parang sobrang sensitive and vulnerable kasi pag new born talaga.

Anyway, congrats again!

Thank you Chris. Yes, 2nd baby. We've been planning for a second child since my first born turned 5.

We tried everything. Kapag fertile si wifey kahit puyat at pagod gawa pa din ng baby. Walang tigil yun. Minsan out of town din namin ginagawa baka sakaling mabuo. Nagbakasakali din kami sa motel pero wala pa din.

Pero last september nung fertile week nya. Nag strategize kami. Di kami nag siping dun sa first 4 days, di din ako nag masturbate. Then on the last day na fertile sya, sa bahay lang kami. In-enjoy lang namin yung moment. Feeling porn star ako nun. Hayok na hayok ako kasi tagal walang release. Kumbaga di kami nag sex para makabuo ng baby. Nag make love kami like there is no tomorrow. Sobrang hingal ako nung nag climax. Yung tipong di talaga ako makasalita.

Then nung october na 1st day nya dapat ng mens di sya nagkaroon. Palagi kaming may preg test kit sa bahay. When we tested, malabo pero may 2 lines. Bumili ako ng 7 na preg test kit na iba iba ang brand. Lahat double lines pero malabo talaga.  After 3 days nag test ulit kami using 3 different brands ulit. 2 lines talaga pero this time medyo malinaw na.

We went to her ob-gyne and the doctor confirmed na daddy na ulit ako. I can't contain my emotions. Pagdating sa car dun ako umiyak. Iba yung feeling. Sobrang blessed.


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[outcastblueboy]

Kinabahan ako reading these. My panganay is 9 year old boy. Buntis si Misisn ngayon and feeling ko nakalimutan ko na lahat. Natatakot na ako mag karga ng new born, naiisip ko kung paano ko nga ba sya pinaliguan dati?? Haha. Parang first time ko ulit.

Yung panganaynamin we started calling him kuya and feel na feel nya. Sabi nya tutulong daw sya sapag aalaga and bubugbugin nya daw mangbu-bully sa kapatid nya.

Di ko alam. Excited ako na sobrang kabado. Sabi naman ng mga friends ko kusang babalik yung parent skills kapag nandyan na.


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Congrats! 2nd baby? Layo rin ng gap if ever. hehehehe.

Pero oo nga, ako 1 year and 3 months pa lang baby ko, pero di na yata ako marunong maghawak ng new born. I know that feeling. Parang sobrang sensitive and vulnerable kasi pag new born talaga.

Anyway, congrats again!

Thank you Chris. Yes, 2nd baby. We've been planning for a second child since my first born turned 5.

We tried everything. Kapag fertile si wifey kahit puyat at pagod gawa pa din ng baby. Walang tigil yun. Minsan out of town din namin ginagawa baka sakaling mabuo. Nagbakasakali din kami sa motel pero wala pa din.

Pero last september nung fertile week nya. Nag strategize kami. Di kami nag siping dun sa first 4 days, di din ako nag masturbate. Then on the last day na fertile sya, sa bahay lang kami. In-enjoy lang namin yung moment. Feeling porn star ako nun. Hayok na hayok ako kasi tagal walang release. Kumbaga di kami nag sex para makabuo ng baby. Nag make love kami like there is no tomorrow. Sobrang hingal ako nung nag climax. Yung tipong di talaga ako makasalita.

Then nung october na 1st day nya dapat ng mens di sya nagkaroon. Palagi kaming may preg test kit sa bahay. When we tested, malabo pero may 2 lines. Bumili ako ng 7 na preg test kit na iba iba ang brand. Lahat double lines pero malabo talaga.  After 3 days nag test ulit kami using 3 different brands ulit. 2 lines talaga pero this time medyo malinaw na.

We went to her ob-gyne and the doctor confirmed na daddy na ulit ako. I can't contain my emotions. Pagdating sa car dun ako umiyak. Iba yung feeling. Sobrang blessed.


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Wow! Heartwarming story buknoy! Congrats! Ako naman pinagdarasal ko mga friends kong hirap magkaanak. Good for you!